‘It’s not pointing fingers’: Brian Austin Green says calling his ex ‘very toxic’ was not him ‘placing blame’ on the mother of his child

Brian Austin Green is back with an update about why him calling his ex toxic isn’t technically “placing blame” on her. Green argues that it’s intention that matters.

Last time Brian Austin Green shared his thoughts on his previous relationship with Vanessa Marcil, who he shares one son with, Green was explaining on his podcast how one of her main drawbacks is that she doesn’t remind him enough of his mother. Green shared that Vanessa Marcil was “the opposite of that” and that she was very toxic.

Fans online were furious at Green’s painting of his ex-wife. From Vanessa Marcil’s perspective, Green had simply not been present enough during the upbringing of their shared son. And while Brian Austin Green had his reasons, Marcil made it clear that this is something she still holds resentment about. Marcil even shared a screenshot on Instagram that showed Green wasn’t even aware of their son’s graduation.

People caught up with Green at a gala that was fundraising for the eradication of MS and had questions. People had one simple question, “Any regrets?” Brian Austin Green replied, “No, because everything that’s come recently has genuinely been for the purpose of speaking about a relationship.” Brian Austin Green went on to explain that he’s not playing the blame game. For him, it’s pretty clear that when you listen to his show in full, there’s no malicious intention. Green said:

“It’s not pointing fingers, placing blame on anyone. If she takes things that way, then there’s nothing I can do about it. It’s pretty obvious just in listening to the things that I say and what it is we do on our show, that’s not our intention. Our intention is to help people. And people go through toxic situations and tough situations and the best you can do is be open and honest about it and hopefully steer other people clear of those situations or help them get through them.”

To be fair to Brian Austin Green, this is a more measured and classy contribution to the two’s back-and-forth. Two things are almost always certain with Green: he will date a co-star and he will make controversial statements about his personal life — but lately the latter has just been dropping him into a world of mess. Brian Austin Green genuinely seems like he wants his podcast Old-ish to be a respectful yet honest retrospective about what it means to grow up and accept your mistakes. At least that’s what the tone of the show is.

When you look at how Brian Austin Green’s approach and respect for Megan Fox, it’s genuinely irable. He honestly makes it seem like he’s a heaven-sent ex. He never pretends he doesn’t care about her but he also never bashes her. In fact, he’s often the one to come to her defense publicly whenever he thinks she needs it. So clearly this is something Brian Austin Green can do, but just chooses not to with Vanessa Marcil.

Another positive was when Vanessa Marcil shared her now-deleted exchange with Brian Austin Green. The conversation at least ended in pleasantries. Celebrity relationships ending up acrimoniously can have its moment. The exposés, the funny back and forths, the grandstanding on podcasts. But once it’s been a couple of years — or decades for them — it’s time to let things go. Even if your mother is your ex’s complete opposite.

You’d hope that this will be the end of the two’s back-and-forth. And probably social media will receive this better. But a nagging feeling suggests that Vanessa Marcil might have to respond first before we come up to any happy conclusions.